Masturbation How To for Everyone

Masturbation month May is ending in a few days. So it's highest time to focus the act of wanking, which accompanies the very most of people all around the world. The author of the following explanation is Cory Silverberg. He is a sexuality educator, media contributor and researcher collaborator. The first part presents his inspiring reflections about masturbation. The second part - only briefly implied here - is a guide how people can make their bodies feel good, while they masturbate. His detailed explanations can be read on the given source at the end of the wording.

 Masturbation How To for Everyone

Part 1 - Thoughts

Masturbation is, hands down, the most common sexual activity on the planet.  For many people it is also the sexual act they will engage in most in their lives. You may not think of masturbation as sex, but by most measures it is.  It involves connection, touch, bodily pleasure.  It facilitates bonding, gets the heart racing, often ends in a climax.  The list goes on. 

But there's a paradox to the ubiquity of masturbation as a sexual practice.  It may be one of the most universally engaged in sexual behaviors, but it's also the one we talk about the least.  

As a result many of us think that masturbation comes easily or "naturally."  And most of us take it for granted that we know what masturbation means. As an educator I spend a lot of time explaining that the word masturbation doesn't just mean touching your genitals. 

Masturbation is about doing something for ourselves, to, and with, our own body to feel good.  The word masturbation is useful in part because it carves out an activity that is intentional (whether or not that intention is conscious).

Most people masturbate by touching their genitals. But not every one does.  Some of us don't focus on our genitals because they aren't parts of our body that feel good (physically, emotionally, or otherwise).  Some of us are bored of focusing on one area and want to give the rest of our body a chance to respond to attention and touch.  

But sex guides rarely talk about this.  Most contribute to a narrow masturbatory path.  They describe male masturbation and female masturbation, assuming that all women's bodies are the same, all men's bodies are the same, and all masturbation is about the genitals. 

There's an idea that the way most people do things is the "normal" way, or the right way, or the way we should all be doing a thing.  When it comes to sexuality the word "most" is, in my opinion, a red herring. All that word means is that we counted and more than half the people we asked do something one way.  When it comes to your sex life, I would encourage you to ask "so what?"

Sex guides and experts get away with talking about most as if it means right because for many people it's enough to "work."  But for many more it doesn't and I'd like us to ask another question:  why should we stop at what "works"?  Sexual exploration isn't primarily about work or function.  It's about feeling and experience, about knowing and learning.  This has nothing to do with reproduction or procreation. 

So in the spirit of what masturbation can be, below is a guide to masturbation for everyone.  It doesn't matter who you are, how you identify, what you have, what you call yourself or your body parts, or what you like.  The only thing you need is an interest in learning more about your own sexuality, your sexual body, feelings, and response.  

Part 2 - A practical guide in 14 chapters

Masturbation is about making your body feel good.  Feeling good means different things to different people, so don't focus at this point on whether or not your feeling good looks like what you've seen or feels like what you've heard about others.

1. Find Some Parts You Like

2. Make Space for Something New

3. Pay Attention to Your Breath

4.Touch Yourself

5. Touch Without Physical Contact

6. Touch Outside the Box

7. Find Your Hot Spots

8. Play Around the Edges

9. Don't Just Move Your Hands

10. More Touching Tips

11. Going Inside

12. Getting to Orgasm

13. Fantasy

14. Extras: Sex Toys, Lube, Porn

Sexuality expert Cory Silverberg shows stimulating ways for self satisfaction.

If part of the barrier for you to pleasureable masturbation is that you have a hard time tuning into your body engaging in a lot of sexual fantasy may make that situation worse.  On the other hand sexual fantasy can be a great way to get your arousal going, and if you find yourself feeling nervous or freezing up when you think about masturbation, it may be that starting with a fantasy will allow for relaxation and distraction. The bottom line is that there's no right or wrong when it comes to fantasy during masturbation.  For some people masturbation will begin with a fantasy that has already got you turned on.  For others, the touching and self-pleasuring comes first and fantasy is what comes to mind during masturbation.

Read the full guide here:

Source Masturbation How To for Everyone

http://sexuality.about.com/od/masturbationtechniques/fl/Masturbation-How-To-for-Everyone.htm?utm_source=exp_nl&utm_medium=email&utm_term=list_sexuality&utm_campaign=list_sexuality&utm_content=20150527

Note: The pictures used here (without portrait of Cory Silverberg) are not parts of the masturbation counselor.